For many folks in the midst of a job change, a career shift the holiday and new year season present just the right climate for an increase in self-doubt, fear, depression, and anxiety.
As I sat down at my desk to write a New Years Day post, I sensed a strong pull to remind all of us a simple truth:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
As a coach, I observe most people putting on the face of “I’ve got it handled.” In reality, there’s a big difference between what’s on the outside and what’s on the inside.
In Walden, the great writer/philosopher Henry David Thoreau wrote,
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
Your neighbor struggles, the lady ahead of you in line at the coffee shop doubts, the physically fit runner who passes your house daily criticizes himself and the fraternity brother who only posts his wins lost his job over the summer hadn’t updated his LinkedIn Profile out of fear his authentic life won’t be accepted. The examples of fear and doubt are endless.
Fear happens. Self-doubt happens.
NO ONE ESCAPES.
What matters most is to share your fears, your doubts with others, talk it out, don’t keep it in. If you need to – #callme.
In his book Love and Survival, Dr. Dean Ornish documents studies that link isolation and disconnection to an increased rate of illness of all kinds.
I’m not aware of any other factor in medicine: not diet; not smoking; not exercise; not stress; not genetics; not drugs; not surgery that has a greater impact on our quality of life, the incidence of illness, and premature deaths from all causes.
Personal relationships play more critical of a role in our health than we have ever considered.
DO YOU HAVE A SAFE PERSON?
You only need one. If you need to – #callme.
My hope for you is that you will ignore the doubts and fears in front of you, you will often pause, take deep breaths, free yourself of your worry and anxiety.
and don’t forget to heed the classic wisdom of Ferris Bueller
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
Let your presence be your present to those you love today and throughout 2018.
and as always if you need to – #callme.
It only takes a moment
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